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The ethics of love magick

ethics of love magick
Love magick is a form of sympathetic magick used to bind the attentions of another. While the most common form of love magick is the love potion, charms, amulets, and poppets can also be used to effect your desires.

I sometimes feel love magick would best be termed “lust magick” because it is no more than a shortcut to achieving the object of your immediate desire. Rather than take months or years to develop a genuine relationship with another person, a simple spell, potion, or charm can cause a superficial relationship based on attraction to spring up seemingly overnight. In practice most love magick can be effected within ninety days from start to finish, but is it worthwhile when that person only loves you for your appearance?

The real problem with love magick is maintaining these relationships long-term. Fairy tales aside, no one falls in love at first sight. It's not enough to be "in-love" with someone. See them every day, even live with them for at least a year to get to know each other before taking any foolish and hasty steps. Love magick may cause the spark of love, but it's up to you to fan the fires. Of course, you should keep in mind that not all relationships get a "happily ever after" ending as the credits roll. Many, many relationships end, often through no fault of either party.

Love yourself

Before even thinking about starting a relationship, the most important thing you can do is love yourself. You are worthy of love, so set up a place to affirm that simple fact on a daily basis before those Gods who can and will intercede for humans who desire love in their lives if approached properly. Petitions placed on the feast day for that God or Goddess are considered especially potent.

The Gods of Love and Desire

about love gods The Gods of Love and Desire are often capricious, but can be helpful to humans if approached properly and with due respect. They have long been regarded with a mixture of reverence and fear by those seek love in their daily lives. When petitioning a God of Love, have a suitable offering of aphrodisiacs prepared.

The following items are associated with love and romance:

If you would like to create your own love spell kit (or just stock your love altar), start with some basic supplies. Cast the spell at the time and place of your choosing to achieve the soul-mate of your dreams.

Note: If you are using any of the herbs in the form of essential oils, you will need a carrier oil such as jojoba oil to act as the base. I like the NOW brand jojoba oil, but use what you can acquire.

Names of Love Gods

Create a love altar

create a love altar Love is not just for Valentine's Day. You can perform love magick any time of the year, but for a major magickal working, it's best to have a suitable altar constructed for "when the moment is right". As with most things magickal, the fastest way to bring love into your life is to announce your intentions to the Universe in the biggest way possible: create a personal love altar.

Your love altar doesn't need to be a huge flashy space in the middle of your living room (but it wouldn't hurt if it is). Even the smallest space can be used to create a love altar that will work for your needs. Start off by looking around the house for things you associate with love and go from there. Do you have any heart-shaped artwork? Red or pink candles? A bit of rose quartz (the stone of love)? A nice heart-print piece of fabric would work nicely for an altar cloth. Try to have things in pairs to invoke the "power of two" in your impending couple-hood. Also include a photo or drawing of yourself as a focal point for your altar. This is an organic process, so don't feel you need to rush to complete the altar. Work on it a bit at a time. Add a bit, take a bit away until you are pleased with it overall.

Once you have things set up, decide if you need more. Would some essential oils such as rose or ylang-ylang appeal to you? A bit of "Come to Me" incense, perhaps? If you want to draw in a potential love with a binding spell, have some silk cording on hand for those spells. And don't forget the old stand-by of "sweets for the sweet" -- some sugar in a shallow dish on the altar.

Each day while working love magick, take a few moments at the altar to meditate on what you have created here.

Let's celebrate love and romance!

Your calendar is probably full of occasions to celebrate, but if you are looking for love and romance, you might be able to find the time to celebrate just a few more romantic holidays. You can bring more love into your life simply by focusing on it. Even if all the holidays aren't necessarily about romantic love, anything that spreads more love through the world is a good thing.

Set aside some time each month of the year to enjoy these love themed holidays by interacting with others. There's no better way to spend a day!



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Flaming Flamingos love spell

flaming flamingos spell If you are at all into lawn art, you probably have a pair of pink flamingos already. You will of course have noticed that you will never see just one lawn flamingo off by its lonesome. They always come in pairs.

What better way to express your desire to have your soul-mate at your side forever than with a pair of lawn flamingos? As a bonus, the shape formed by two flamingos with their heads together forms a heart -- perfect for love magick!



Set up your lawn flamingos in a prominent place outside your house. Position them so they are facing each other to form their "heart shape" head configuration.

Once set up, take a length of red ribbon. Tie one end to each flamingo.

Hold your hands over each flamingo in turn, and say:

As with my desire for love, I bind you to each other. Draw love's flame to me.

Repeat each evening for one moon cycle.

Persephone's Pomegranate love spell

Persephone's Pomegranate love spell This is a more complex spell, but quite effective when done properly. This spell uses knot magick to bind you to your future soul-mate or other half.

Note: This can be a difficult bond to break once the spell is cast. It should not be done lightly.



Firmly knot together the ends of the cords. Braid them together, then tie a series of knots until you have seven total knots in the cord.

Once complete, slowly eat the pomegranate seeds while focusing on the type of relationship you desire. Visualize your future in all its particulars. Say these or similar words:

I am ready to meet my soul-mate, and stay together forever. I bind myself to him/her for so long as we both desire it.

Carry the braided cord for one moon cycle so the spell can manifest, then keep it in a safe place once the relationship has begun.

Threefold Heart love spell

Threefold Heart love spell Take a trip down memory lane with nostalgic Valentine candies. Think back to childhood about those special Valentines candies you waited to receive each year: Conversation Hearts (with text reading "Be Mine" or similar), Cinnamon Hearts (spicy cinnamon candies shaped like little hearts), and chocolate hearts (wrapped in red foil). Receiving any one of these meant you were special to someone. To receive all three would be an extremely auspicious Valentine's Day for a child.

Now that you are all grown up, you can relive the joy. Give a set of these three hearts to a loved one on Valentine's Day to share the love!



Take one of each candy. Charge them at least overnight near a piece of rose quartz. On Valentine's Day, place the rose quartz in your pocket, then give the three hearts to your intended, and say:

Sweets for the sweet. Please accept my heart and all my love.

The rest, as they say, is up to you.

Chocolate Kiss and Make Up love charm

Chocolate Kiss and Make Up charm
Had a bad fight? Don't want the relationship to end, but don't want to talk with them just yet? Take a break for a bit to cool off, then kiss and make up with this easy charm.

What better way to kiss and make up than with a sweet chocolate kiss?



Hold both kisses in your hand, then say something like this with intent to end the argument:

Regardless of fault, we should both move past it. Let's kiss and make up with these chocolate kisses.

Give one chocolate kiss to your better half, and eat the other yourself. Seal the end of the argument with a kiss, thus ending the argument.

Further reading

You might also enjoy the following books:

love charms Love Charms by Elizabeth Pepper (The Witches' Almanac Ltd, 2001): This is a small chapbook. It includes spells, seasonal rituals, and milestone rituals such as births which are focused on both love and banishment of old loves. These are interspersed with quotes about the nature of love.   the goddess in the bedroom The Goddess in the Bedroom by Z Budapest (HarperSanFrancisco, 1995): A cute little spellbook with appropriate love spells for each day of the week.

These books can be difficult to find since many are out of print. Some great places to buy used books online include:

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